Much too Much

"A thing long expected takes the form of the unexpected when at last it comes." -Twain

I guess it goes without saying that expectations outline a large part of the world we live in; both the ones we put ourselves and the ones put upon us from outside sources. The hard part isn't recognizing them or even believing in them. The harder or hardest part comes when the expectations are broken, when they aren't met, and when you realize that they were just to damn high in the first place and the pressure kicks in. And then comes the aftermath when you throw in the towel, and surrender to the idea that if you work at it, you could, if you really really tried, meet it and maybe even exceed it after all. I think it's easier to say what you can't expect from people than what you can. You can't expect people to:

• Know when they've gone too far, said too much, crossed the line or hurt your feelings
  
• Remember dates, anniversaries, Birthdays or things that may matter more to you than to anyone else
  
• Remember every detail about when you first met, how you met, where you met, what you said, what he said, what he was wearing, what you were wearing; not everyone thinks that all minor details are worth remembering.
  
• Understand that just because it's over doesn't mean you've moved on
• Understand that just because you've forgiven, doesn't mean it's really forgotten...
• Recognize that just because you no longer love someone, doesn't mean they still can't hurt you...and will hurt you
  
• Put a time line on moving on
• Realize that you can't be wrong about your feelings; after all, they are your feelings.
• Remember that different people react in many different ways to the same situation
  
• Know when to say sorry or admit when they were wrong
• Know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em
  

But then again, is this expecting too less of people? As humans aren't we socially responsible for some sort of basic awareness about the people we love, or even those we just "like." Have we come to expect too little of the people we love and too much from ourselves, or can we hold ourselves accountable while balancing out expecting a little more, but not too much from others.